Spending Christmas Alone is Self-Care

Hello everyone and Merry Christmas,

This year, I am doing something a little different for Christmas. I am spending Christmas Eve and Christmas Day by myself. This is not as horrible as it may sound.

I am taking some much needed me time, away from all the hustle and bustle of work at school and these two days are dedicated to me.

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here is a list of a few things I will be doing to take care of myself on Christmas, which anyone can do…

  1. Get up at a decent hour on Christmas morning and make breakfast. I am going to actually cook breakfast for myself that includes pancakes, veggie bacon and a nice, hot cup of fresh coffee. I am treating myself with pancakes, since I do not normally eat them because they are very high in calories, but what the heck, it’s Christmas 🙂

 

2. Now that I have enjoyed my breakfast, I will be opening some “mock” presents. What I mean by this is to open the surprise bags I bought from my work, so that I could have something to open. I thought it was a very clever Idea, because I hate knowing what I got for Christmas before opening my presents. Since I do not know what is in those surprise bags before I open them, it’s a win/win for me.

 

3. Binge watch some of my favourite Christmas movies and cartoons that my mother and I used to enjoy watching together when she was alive. I take this time of year to remember her and how special she made Christmas Day for us. My mother worked very hard in the usual baking and other traditions, as well as making sure there was enough snacks for everyone to enjoy. However, the most important part of Christmas with my mom, was the love she has for her family and the time we spend together when she was here with us. Watching Christmas movie and cartoons with her, only added to the extra layers of Christmas happiness into our hearts.

 

4. A walk in the snowy covered city to enjoy the race full serenity of the falling snow. Anything can be beautiful if you open your eyes to its wonder and take time to notice it.

 

5.  Dinner consisting of tofu turkey, Brussel sprouts and mashed potatoes. I am cooking this Christmas dinner for myself to remember all the amazing family dinners I was a part of and the many moments laughter and joy, throughout the generations. My grandfather always seemed to come up with the funniest things to say at the dinner table, that would leave all all either chocking on our food, or laughing so hard that we could not breathe. My family and I have always cherished and remembered these special times in our lives.

5. Ending the night by relaxing with a face mask and reading a good book!

Anyone can spend Christmas alone, but that does not mean it has to suck. Do thinks that make you happy and things that don’t give you any stress. Take some time for yourself and be proud of who you are.

Some other things you could do when spending Christmas alone:

  • Find a local free Christmas dinner to go to, hosted by your community.
  • Bake some of your favourite cookies.
  • Have a bubble/salt bath with candles.
  • Indulge in your favourite treat.
  • Have a spa day and go all out with manicures, predicates, face masks and a massage.
  • Do a random act for someone who is homeless this Christmas.
  • Make homemade Chinese food.

Whatever you choose to do, make sure It is special enough to make it feel like Christmas for you. Make the best of it with what you got.

Christmas does not have to be stressful. It can be relaxing to take care of yourself for the day, to enjoy some inner peace.

My Christmas this year was almost like a meditation, one that keeps me mindful of all the wonderful things in the world and the amazing people I have in my life. It was nice to put this all in perspective and to see the beauty in even the smallest things.

We must enjoy our lives and have fun, without stress.

Merry Christmas Everyone!

 

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Coping With a Traumatic Experience

The way an individual copes with a difficult life event, is normal because everyone experiences trauma very differently.

when someone has a very negative reaction to an emotional trigger, the worst thing you can do is to tell them to calm down and let it go… No, this is very wrong.

In a way, you are indirectly telling people that what they are feeling is not valid and what they have been through is not important.

They are reacting in ways that are very normal and understandable, considering the amount of hardships they have endured. When you tell someone to calm down, you ae essentially telling them that they are not allowed to process and express these emotions in a way that they don’t get bottled up inside.

They are reacting this way to seek some sort of release from all of the built up tension from their traumatic experience.

Let me tell you this,

let people express their true emotions because people need to heal. People need some sort of way to tell the world what they have been through. Unfortunately, sometimes this may come out as lashing out on others. But do not be fooled, it is still understandable as to why one may act in such a manner.

Also, we must let people bee themselves because everyone is a unique human being. We have to stop putting up walls and barriers to raw emotions. We have to facilitate people in their healing process, however they may need to do so.

We cannot begin to fathom what horrific events people have had to suffer from. We also cannot begin to imagine the agony and pain their are feeling. If we do not understand, we cannot tell them to let it go, because we have no idea how one would even begin to cope.

Even if more than one individual has had the same experience, it is still a different experience with each individual. A different perspective, different emotions, different time frames, etc.

So, in order for people to truly heal from a traumatic experience, we must not shun them away. We must help them to rise above all the hatred and negativity in the world.

We must accept who people are and understand that they may be acting out for a reason. Don’t just shun people away because you have no idea what they are going through.

Try to listen to them when they are acting out. What are they saying or trying to say? And, are there any repetitive themes of wanting to prove their story to others.

These people have a voice, lets hear and listen to their story, without judgement.

Lets help people heal from their traumatic experiences, without barriers. Maybe then, true healing in our world can finally being.

Read This When You Need Some Motivation

pexels-photo-239604You are awesome in every way and you are a very beautiful human being. Everything that you need in life is already within you, all you need to do is allow it to come to you.

I am so proud of you for all of the difficulties of your life that you have overcome. This makes you a stronger person, better able to handle anything that comes your way.

You have so many valuable gifts, talents and skill to offer this world, so step out there in the world and let your true self be seen.

Who cares what people judge you for because you cannot be like everyone else, since everyone is a unique individual.

Be yourself, let your flaws show and people will value you for not hiding in shame. Be confident in your own skin and love ever single part of your mind, body and soul.

Create a life for yourself where you take on as many opportunities as possible that will enrich your life and help you grow into an amazing person.

You can accomplish anything you want in life, without the added weight of fear. However, if you must be afraid, do it anyways.

Who cares what you look like or how you act, think of how proud of yourself you will be when you have finally completed something you never thought you could do.

People that love you for who you are will be there for you no matter what. They will always have you back no matter what you do or don’t do.

Just being your true self, is enough. In order to be truly loved with a whole heart, you just need to be authentically you and let your confident personality shine.

You are a beautiful person both inside and out. Let life in, have fun with it and enjoy it.

The Importance of Heart-to-Heart Talks

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Heart-to-heart talks with someone you find is close to you, can be a very soothing and therapeutic experience.

The first thing you need to do if you want to have a heart-to-heart conversation is to decide who you trust and connect with most. That way, you will feel more free to talk about difficult topics with them. When you have a strong connection with someone, the conversation will provide a lot of positive feedback for you to fall back on, regarding the topic you talk about.

You will be able to talk about more deeper topics and engage with each other more.

Being able to talk to one another also builds a sense of emotional intimacy. This happens because you trust the person enough to share your heart with.

Having regular heart-to-heat conversations will also bring the two of you closer together and build your sense of trust with one another. It will build on your connection and increase your relationship experience.

Having these kinds of conversations also teaches you valuable lessons in life, from the feedback the two of you give to each other. This is one of the most important things you can do as an individual to grow and build upon relationships with those most close to you. Let your heart shine, Happiness is on the way!

-Rebecca

 

Nothing Can Disturb Your Inner Peace

pexels-photo-556663I’ve been hearing and reading a lot lately about how you choose o respond to past, current or future circumstances, is the intention you put out into the universe. When the universe grabs hold of that intention, it will bring it back to you in a more profound way.

Every day, when you practice and meditate on the things that you are grateful for, you are bring to you more gratitude and positive experiences. your life will include more people in your life who are good for you, and opportunities that are also good for you.

It is almost as if the whole universe is a part of your soul, experiencing life alongside you, in every step of the way. Divine energy is always guiding you along your journey toward a happy and successful life.

Once you have the mindset of true happiness, you will begin to notice things in a more positive light. Colours will stand out more, people around you will smile more, your worries will disappear or lessen and your self-confidence will soar to higher levels of greatness.

Nothing can disturb your inner peace, no matter what because it is always your choice to react, respond or to be content. You can keep your sanity by choosing how you use your feeling and emotions in your everyday life.

Life is meant to be enjoyed, without stress and emotional suffering.

So get out there and enjoy your life, each and every single part of it.

May your days ahead be filled with abundance and love.

-Rebecca